When we start therapy, we can easily get attached to our therapists. I mean, why not?
They help us figure out our thoughts and emotions and provide a listening ear during our tough times. So it’s very evident for us to get closer to them.
But eventually, we have to say goodbye. It can be hard to adjust to life without regular therapy sessions, but there are ways to cope.
When I lost my therapist, I was completely blindsided. It turned my life upside down.
Last year, I had to say goodbye to my therapist. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but also necessary. Now, I’m missing her more than ever, and I’m unsure how to fill that void.
In this article, I will be sharing my experience of how much I miss her and what I am doing to overcome it.
I Miss My Therapist: Is it normal?
It’s normal for us to feel attached to our therapists and to miss them when we no longer see them regularly. It is healthy to miss out on a therapist.
Therapy can be very intimate, and it’s not uncommon to develop strong feelings for our therapist. In some cases, these feelings may even be romantic. So, it would be a very usual thing to get connected to our therapists.
Well, I would say, if you’re struggling to cope without your therapist, it’s important to seek professional help. A new therapist can provide the support you need to get through this tough time.
I am unsure if I can get therapy sessions from any new therapists or not. Because I have gone through many therapy sessions so far, it’s hard for me to afford further therapies.
What I Feel When I Miss My Therapist
I miss my therapist so much it hurts. Sometimes I feel like an envision when I miss my therapist. I say everything by myself that I want to say to her. I also feel that my therapist is staring at me back with love and care, and is really proud of me. I can imagine that she appreciates me for my improvement and growth.
Most of the time, I feel sad and let myself spend time alone. But I don’t even want to dwell on that single emotion too. I think of those memories where we shared laughs, experiences, etc. It makes me feel good.
Whenever I get time, I go to her website and scroll through the pictures and services she posts. These all can be missing my therapist’s symptoms.
Things You Can Do To Overcome
Other options are available if you don’t feel like therapy is right for you, such as medication or psychiatric hospitals. Other than therapies, there are more potentials you can try out. Such as:
Talk to a trusted friend or family member
Sometimes, we feel lost without our therapist. At that time, the best thing would be to reach out to someone we could trust for support. Talking to a friend or family member can help us feel connected and understood, and they may be able to provide some helpful advice.
Seek out other resources
Plenty of other resources are available to help us, such as books, websites, and hotlines. These all help manage our mental health. You need to find what works for you and use these resources.
Take care of yourself
When you’re going through a tough time, taking care of yourself physically and mentally is important. Make sure to eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep, and take time for yourself every day. Taking care of yourself will help you feel better both mentally and physically. I’ve also been trying out this technique.
Seek professional help if needed
Perhaps, we can’t be able to forget our therapist even after talking to our friends and families. The best thing would be to seek professional help last. A new therapist can provide the support you need to get through this tough time.
No one said life without a therapist would be easy, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can start to cope with your therapist’s loss and build a new life for yourself.
Contacting The Therapist
It’s not necessary to contact your therapist after the end of all sessions, but some people find it helpful. If you decide to contact your therapist, make sure to do so in a respectful way. It’s also important to keep in mind that your therapist may not be able to respond immediately, as they likely have other patients they’re seeing. Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to contact your therapist is up to you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do therapists feel about clients who get attached to them?
Just like a client misses his therapist, the therapist also misses him. All therapists should take good care of their client’s feelings. They must see if their clients are doing well or not, improving or not, etc. It is a common practice for the client and therapist to connect emotionally and mentally. A good therapist knows this thing. So, he may refer you to another professional therapist.
Does my therapist think about me between sessions?
It’s natural for a therapist to think about his client between sessions. For example, you are a massage therapist and share a source with your client. It can be a character you saw in a movie related to the client’s issue. Or it can be wisdom which you transpired and thought of mentioning to your client at the next session. These relatable things can make your therapist think about you between sessions.
Can you tell your therapist you miss them?
It’s completely ok to text your therapist when you miss him. You both can initiate a nice point for your next session. However, if you don’t have further appointments with him, you can give him a respectful message about what you feel for him.
How do therapists feel about clients who get attached to them?
As I said, therapists feel connected with the clients they are attached to. Since they work with a client for a long time, they usually have feelings for their clients. A good therapist will truly care for his client and stay concerned about his well-being.
Conclusion
I miss my therapist, and I’m not sure how to cope. I’ve created a support system of friends and family, taken care of myself, and sought other resources when needed. I also know that I can always contact my therapist if I need to. If you’re in a similar situation, I hope these tips help you cope without your therapist.
Let us know what you feel about your therapist. Cherish every moment before he leaves because you will miss him a lot after the sessions terminate.
